fucking story of my life.
There is no friend-zone. There is the realization “This hurts, but I value this person in my life, so I’ll get over it” or “This hurt to the point I need to withdraw and heal; this may be permanent. I do not mean to hurt you as well, I do this for me. I wish you well.”
The legitimate use of #2 when you have had no romantic connection is about 1% of the time, btw.